I was recently thinking of those who seek their parents blessing, only to be turned away. On St. Valentine’s Day you offer your heart to those you love in hopes that you will be accepted and blessed in return. The article below originally appeared on this space two years ago. I thought it was a good time to repost.
As I was making my way around Word Press yesterday looking for interesting blogs where I could leave comments, part of the Zero to Hero 30 Days to a Better Blog exercise, I came across The Open Closet, so I went in to take a look. The first post I encountered was titled Blessing. It is about the role a particular song played in the author’s coming out process.
“I know this song,” I thought immediately. I was certain that it was one that my cousin posted last year on facebook when she surprised some of us by speaking of coming out. It has a powerful lyric and speaks strongly to the emotions felt by the author. The video was of low quality picture but had good sound. It featured the composer at the piano and “The Broadway Boys” took over after the first verse and brought the message home. This particular video has not exactly gone viral, but is worth a look nonetheless.
When someone falls in love and wants to spend the rest of their life with someone, they frequently look toward home not just for support, but for blessing. It can not be understated how adult children still want and crave the blessings of their parents for the love in their lives. In a certain way, it validates what the “child” is thinking and feeling. He or she wants to know it is OK. That he is supported. That he (or she) and his or her love is also loved by the parents.
In a powerful scene in Fiddler on the Roof Tevye, the father, is told by the daughter that she is not asking his permission to be married, but rather his blessing. This is a cultural shock for the time period but demonstrates what children have always wanted from their parents, their blessing. Why should it be different for a gay man or lesbian? They still want the love and the blessing of the parents. If they can not bless the union, then they risk hurting the child and missing an important moment in life.
Rather than leave the Scott Alan version for you, I thought I would choose the one I saw on You Tube last year. You can find the link to the Scott Alan version above or drop into The Open Closet. This cover version of the song is beautifully captured in this video. Listen to the words as well as the beautiful voices. I think you will be moved.